Internet broke me. It really did. Yes, I know, I’m writing it all on my blog for the ‘whole’ internet to see and yes, I see the irony!
‘Not to be missed’ news everywhere!
First of all, before the Internet I was more focused, less anxious and I felt like my thoughts were able to flow without constant interruptions. I got rid of the e-mail notifications and Facebook a year ago, but recently, I realized that is not enough.
In the 90’s and 80’s most of us were stuck with evening news. That meant we were able to get on with our lives, without being bombarded with stories 24/7. All the world’s tragedies seemed very distant (you got only few minutes snippet of it) and that was ok. Do you think it’s harsh? I don’t! Most of us are unable to help a village damaged by flood (many, many miles away). All you get from this news is a worry about something you can’t change. The most important news will come to you one way or the other, so by not reading updates on the Internet, you’re not missing out (except: being stressed and having false sense of control: we all know that international affairs will fail without us knowing everything about them, right?). Obviously, you’re risking being called an ignorant by someone, but who cares?
I’ve noticed that I started to forget things, because of the information overload. I wanted to see and read everything, but my mind couldn’t take it anymore, so I kept forgetting about most of the things I’ve seen and read (which contradicts the point of reading, doesn’t it?). I couldn’t trick my mind into remembering. It knew better- there’s too much unnecessary info.
You’re not good enough.
I knew what I was good at before the internet. Now I’m not so sure, as there’s lots of people doing the same things I do, only better. Internet made me hate myself and world far too many times. It made me doubt. It made a conformist out of me ( and that was really new). Although, I think that is a good thing to grow and change your opinions as a result of thinking things through, it’s not so good to change them under pressure and out of pure confusion. Even blogging do’s and don’ts are hard to decipher without getting in the state of slight paranoia ( Is it ok to? Is it a must have? Is it an absolute faux pa?). Haven’t you asked yourself that at least once in your blogging career?
High school didn’t break me, but internet did… Oh poor, poor teenagers of today! But they probably know better than me how to live in this tech world – that’s the only reality they know, they know how to operate in it. Honestly, I can’t imagine living my teenage years like that: being reminded about your stupidest deeds/sayings on facebook, twitter and having audition tape from the x factor forever and ever. Yep, my dream was to be a singer, so if x factor had existed then, I would have ended up on it! Thank God it didn’t! I’m really, really happy it didn’t! I’m glad my teenage years are dead and buried with all their good, bad and ugly. It’s good that way.
All our eggs in one basket.
It’s great to use things that make our everyday life easier (thanks for clearing that up captain obvious!), but it would be wonderful to make internet something so ‘in the background’ & ‘useful but not necessary’ like radio traffic announcements. That’s certainly not the case now. There’s no life without the internet and that concerns me, as all the other electronic/mechanical invention were just the help/addition. You didn’t have to listen to the radio or have a tv without any (or almost any) repercussions. You’ve had an alternative travel options after car was invented. And with the internet it seems like we’ve put all our eggs in one basket (everything is online: from power plants to friendships). And if you think about it, internet is very fragile: easy to hack, full of errors. It’s fragile but somehow became an absolute.
You’ve made my life so easy.
It’s so easy to control everything from our sofa. But is it really? Does it really make our life simpler? How many accounts and passwords do we have? Can we just popped out to the post office, take a walk, meet people and pay our bills there? Do we really have no time or are we adding and adding to our neverending to do list and make ourselves have no time? Our grandparents had jobs and children (obviously), but did they rush as much as we do now?
I’ve read that meditation and headspace apps are most popular than ever. Don’t get me wrong, I think they are helpful, but you know what they say: the simplest way is the best. Maybe turning your phone off is better than downloading relaxation app? As far as I know, you can still breathe without an app. How’s that for an idea? Do we really need our cars to check our emails, read our texts and do we really need to check our heating on the go? I’m 100 percent sure that it made my anxiety & agoraphobia so much worse. When was the last time you sat in silence, doing absolutely nothing (not even taking mental notes)?
Here comes the most controversial question: would you ditch your cell phone? Would you let your kids go somewhere without the cell phone?
Isn’t just our fear? Fear of not being able to call for help? Although phones are lifesavers in some cases, they don’t guarantee safety and can’t mess up things too (think classic thriller scenario- you’re in hiding and cell phone rings!). And teenagers will find the way to be unreachable anyway.
But it’s not like we live in the desert. Your kids are under constant supervision at school. Teachers know about all the allergies, have emergency contacts written down and they are trained to do the first aid. Your kiddos are probably much safer than 20 years ago, but parents have so much more fear and cell is often an absolute must-have. Is it really something that survivors have in their pockets? Would you be able to go somewhere without your phone? Take a walk, bus trip? How many emergencies, must-take calls do you have daily? What do you think about ditching your cell phone? Is it brave? Stupid? Unnecessary? Going back to the dark ages?
I think that if you have kiddos, it’s especially hard to let go. It’s parents’ safety net after all.
There’s life out there!
I really think we underestimate the power of human contact (especially teenagers do).
Teenagers glued to their phone whilst on school trips make my blood boil. Put your freaking phone down & look up! There’s LIFE UP THERE!
I can’t accept this new form of communication, as deep down inside I feel it’s not right. Not all of it of course, but sadly most of it! Or maybe I’m just old and grumpy.
I believe researches when they say that electronics change dynamics in our brains. And showing printed pictures to friends sitting on your sofa was so much better than sending digital ones via email. It’s awesome that we’re able to share our photos instantly with friends living abroad, but it isn’t like before the internet people have never seen any pics ever. They just waited a little longer (and they were ok with it ).
I will never forget the anticipation I felt when my films were being developed at the photo shop!
What I like about the internet.
Well, I like blogging. I like the fact that people can share their stories and ideas. And it’s not exclusive, anyone can do it. I love the fact that you can find kindred spirits on the other sides of the globe and support each other. And that you can make career out of blogging. It’s pretty cool!
I like movie streaming services. And I was pretty psyched about instagram for a while ( I loved that retro look).
But to sum it up, these are things I can really live without. It’s a lovely addition, but not necessity.
Going old style
I remember how psyched we were with my friend about emails back in a day. We thought that it was the coolest thing ever. It was such a fun to be able to contact each other in a snap of the fingers and write stupidest things, our inside jokes, things only we could understand. But most of the time we were writing long emails, pouring our hearts out. And here comes the question: do people write this days? When was the last time you’ve received a letter or long e-mail with actual words not emojis and abbreviations? That’s why I like blogging concept, as posts are usually long, thoughtful and people’s personality really shines through their words. I’m not keen on twitter and facebook.
I’m probably the biggest hypocrite ever. As I did most of the things listed above (and I still do some of them). But I’m making changes. A lot of changes.They may seem like a drag for moment or two, but they are worth it the long run.I still haven’t decided how far I will go with ditching the internet, but I’ll listen to my gut feeling.
I’m guilty of taking the obvious (‘easiest’) way, that turned out to be harder and most time consuming than ever. Helpful ‘managing all of your accounts online’, was not so helpful after all, because of all the glitches, info overload, promotional emails, passwords, surveys, distractions, direct debit mistakes and so on. Paying bills at the post office seems like a breeze now. Having all the pictures on CDs, computer disc and ‘old’ smartphones made me not look at them at all or forgetting I have them or where I can find them. I’ve got my old, printed photos in order though: neatly organized in photo albums. I’ve also noticed that I don’t take that much smartphone pics as I used to. I tend to simply enjoy the walk instead of snapping pics.
Basically, what I’m saying is that I stopped, started to breath and thought: ‘What am I doing? I’m not feeling good with this. And I must have felt that way for a while. I wanted to do things THE RIGHT WAY which wasn’t MY WAY and that is unacceptable for me and it always was! Can I just simply be me?’
And if you feel the same, don’t be afraid to take the leap. There’s life besides the internet!
I’m using my real name today (instead of internet nickname).
Lots of love,
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